Celebrating the 4th of July, Our Way
Past Heartwork by Kinnen
The 4th of July is one of those holidays that often comes with high expectations—big gatherings, late nights, fireworks lighting up the sky, and kids running around with sticky fingers and patriotic popsicles. But for families like ours, raising children with disabilities, this holiday can look a little different. And that’s not a bad thing. If you were looking for it, this is your permission slip to say you don’t have to celebrate that way.
In our homes, we've learned to embrace a slower, more intentional version of the day. Kinnen isn’t able to enjoy many of the classic summer treats because of dietary restrictions, and Kai is visually impaired and often overwhelmed by loud noises—so fireworks aren’t really part of our celebration. That used to feel a little sad in the early years, like we were missing out on something. But over time, we’ve discovered that our version of joy doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s.
Instead of fireworks, we find light in shared laughter with friends. Instead of parades and crowds, we find rhythm in a quiet backyard swim. We cook out, keep it simple, and stay tuned into what works best for our family. The beauty of the 4th of July isn’t in how loud or flashy it is—it’s in the freedom to choose how you celebrate.
So if your day includes noise-canceling headphones, a change of plans, or skipping the fireworks altogether—you’re not doing it wrong. You’re doing what works for your child. And in that, you’re creating memories that are full of love, connection, and meaning.
You’re doing what works for your child.
Looking for ways to celebrate from home? Here are some family-friendly, accessible ideas that can still make the day feel festive and fun:
Make patriotic decorations together with your kids—think paper crafts, handprint flags, or red, white, and blue banners.
Watch a fireworks show on TV or YouTube to enjoy the beauty without the sensory overload.
Roast marshmallows or make s’mores in the oven or over a backyard fire pit.
Create 4th of July snacks that meet your child’s dietary needs—fruit kabobs, allergy-friendly cupcakes, or themed smoothies.
Enjoy sparklers (with supervision) for a bit of sparkle without the boom.
Take a drive and watch fireworks from the car where your child feels safe and calm.
Set up a water table or small inflatable pool in the backyard with Dollar Tree red, white, and blue toys for simple sensory fun.
Invite a few close friends over so your child can stay in their comfort zone while still enjoying community and connection.
Take a family walk and look for American flags hanging around.
However you celebrate, just know that you’re not alone. Your version of this holiday matters—and it’s worthy of celebration.
From our family to yours, Happy 4th of July—may it be filled with light in all the ways that matter most. ❤️💙
Love you, Cake Pop!
-The Lemon Cake Girls
